(Author : Vaniessa C.)
It seems like just yesterday we were hanging out in the hallways of our high school in between classes. Boyfriends and girlfriends sneaking in a kiss and hug, trying to avoid getting caught by the teachers. Staying after school just so you could hang out with your friends before extracurricular activities start or maybe to catch a glimpse of that special someone you had a crush on.
High school was never easy, peer pressure, fitting in or being different and still being accepted. Maintaining grade averages, boys, homecoming, prom, dating and drama. Yes, I finally said it! There was always some drama, especially with that one particular clique. You know exactly which group of girls I am talking about. The ones that stare down at you at the hallways, spread rumors about you, and goes after your crush not because they liked him but because you did. They basked in everyone else’s misery because they had control and they knew it. Making people look bad was their forte' and they would not stop until someone got hurt.
Well, years have passed and times have changed but some things remain the same. Means girls are still at as they were. But now, my best friend is made one of their victims. Imagine if you were in her parents’ shoes..how hard is it to watch your fifteen year old go home in tears just because other schoolgirls spread rumors about her, threatened her and enjoyed the emotions on her embarrassed face.
They stalked her until she locked herself in the restrooms in tears and hyper-ventilate. She lashes out at me and her family because she is stressed and does not want to go to school anymore. Can I blame her? Honestly NO. If her parents had their choice, she would be home schooled for the rest of her high school days. However they do not want her to miss out on the great things like education, homecoming, and prom etc.
Where does it end with these girls? Most of the time, they get a little slap on the wrist and go right back to doing what they do best which in turn makes them retaliate even more? It's a vicious cycle that needs to be broken. How many times have the parents gone to the school to confront the situation and only to have the administration tell them, "Girls will be girls, try and let them handle it. The girls will work it out on their own." Really? What is it going to take? Someone’s child going to the extreme, drama escalating into a fight and or hurting themselves?
I'm not a super bestie or best friend because I can do anything and everything; I am a super best friend because I will do anything and everything to protect my friend. I am the friend that will stand up for my friends because I believe in them; I have grown up with them with good moral values and done the best I can as a friend. I worked hard.
I just want to send a message out to all you that are experiencing the same situation.
You cannot let them break you. Remember how amazing you are, and they would not do what they do unless you had something that they want. You can't break someone who thinks nothing of you. They are looking for a reaction which is really the only thing you are responsible for. You cannot control them but you can control how you react. Be strong and don't let them know they hurt you or that they scare you.
Friends;
be supportive and remember how hard high school was and guide them to a better tomorrow.
To all you mean girls out there;
I have taught myself, and my friend, strength and courage. You will not break us.
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It seems like just yesterday we were hanging out in the hallways of our high school in between classes. Boyfriends and girlfriends sneaking in a kiss and hug, trying to avoid getting caught by the teachers. Staying after school just so you could hang out with your friends before extracurricular activities start or maybe to catch a glimpse of that special someone you had a crush on.
High school was never easy, peer pressure, fitting in or being different and still being accepted. Maintaining grade averages, boys, homecoming, prom, dating and drama. Yes, I finally said it! There was always some drama, especially with that one particular clique. You know exactly which group of girls I am talking about. The ones that stare down at you at the hallways, spread rumors about you, and goes after your crush not because they liked him but because you did. They basked in everyone else’s misery because they had control and they knew it. Making people look bad was their forte' and they would not stop until someone got hurt.
Well, years have passed and times have changed but some things remain the same. Means girls are still at as they were. But now, my best friend is made one of their victims. Imagine if you were in her parents’ shoes..how hard is it to watch your fifteen year old go home in tears just because other schoolgirls spread rumors about her, threatened her and enjoyed the emotions on her embarrassed face.
They stalked her until she locked herself in the restrooms in tears and hyper-ventilate. She lashes out at me and her family because she is stressed and does not want to go to school anymore. Can I blame her? Honestly NO. If her parents had their choice, she would be home schooled for the rest of her high school days. However they do not want her to miss out on the great things like education, homecoming, and prom etc.
Where does it end with these girls? Most of the time, they get a little slap on the wrist and go right back to doing what they do best which in turn makes them retaliate even more? It's a vicious cycle that needs to be broken. How many times have the parents gone to the school to confront the situation and only to have the administration tell them, "Girls will be girls, try and let them handle it. The girls will work it out on their own." Really? What is it going to take? Someone’s child going to the extreme, drama escalating into a fight and or hurting themselves?
I'm not a super bestie or best friend because I can do anything and everything; I am a super best friend because I will do anything and everything to protect my friend. I am the friend that will stand up for my friends because I believe in them; I have grown up with them with good moral values and done the best I can as a friend. I worked hard.
I just want to send a message out to all you that are experiencing the same situation.
You cannot let them break you. Remember how amazing you are, and they would not do what they do unless you had something that they want. You can't break someone who thinks nothing of you. They are looking for a reaction which is really the only thing you are responsible for. You cannot control them but you can control how you react. Be strong and don't let them know they hurt you or that they scare you.
Friends;
be supportive and remember how hard high school was and guide them to a better tomorrow.
To all you mean girls out there;
I have taught myself, and my friend, strength and courage. You will not break us.
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Good one. That is the Spirit. We dont have to put up with them. All who agree stand up to these kind of people to let them know they cannot win. WE ARE THE CHAMPIONS FOR OVERCOMING WITH THE GRACE OF GOD!
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