It's Complicated!!

(Author : The Hmmm???)

You’re damn right it’s complicated!

Have you watched it? If you haven’t, my advice to you is go for this movie. It’s really hilarious and I bet you will laugh till you roll to the ground! At the same time, watch for the moral behind the story.

It has some real moments and truth in it about how life is being married and divorced, plus the impact it has on the people around you. The story tells us how life really is in reality.

(Note: Movie spoilers ahead! Read at your own risk.)

I would like to share some of my thoughts here……………………………………………………

Truth is, everybody in this world is searching for happiness. Just like in this movie, Jake (Alec Baldwin), a divorcee who got married again, this time to a younger woman and he is probably in his 60’s (age was not mentioned in the movie).

Now, in general most people would say, “Wow, what a guy! Really envy him, he’s got a young pretty looking lady for a wife, probably a hot one too!” Well, most will drool and wish they were in his shoes.

We never stop to think for a second about what their life really is like back at home behind closed doors.

Just as the scene in the movie showed, he was henpecked by not only his wife but also his young son. Life was not exactly turning out the way he had wanted it to be.

People are funny; they always have this idea that the grass is always greener on the other side.

When they are in love for the first time, all seems rosy and beautiful. (All flaws that appeared are shoved under the carpet) In their eyes then, both partners believe that they are made for each other, inseparable, in heaven, they smell only sweet scents and see beautiful colors around them. It’s like they are in a garden all day long, having fun, picnic after picnic, running around under the shady trees with the lovely breeze brushing by them …… Awwwwe ……Ahhhhh…. Hmmmmm….floating on cloud 9…………
SNAP! SNAP! SNAP! WAKE UP.

Guys and Gals, Ladies and Gentlemen… this is a wake up call. Time to open your eyes WIDE! Fun is over! Come back, Come back, say Hello to the Real World!

No worries, not all of reality is bad. We have choices that we can make. Whether it’s a bad choice or a good choice, it’s still a choice.

You choose to fall in love, You choose to let someone love you, You choose to be married, You choose your partner to share your life with… see where this is leading to…… Everything you do is a CHOICE.

So my dear friends… have you ever ask yourselves,

Why you married your spouse in the beginning? Why did you fall for the person you want to share your life with? Why do you not still be in love with the person you’re with after an X amount of years?

You see, each and every one of us deserve to have the happiness we want. All it takes is for you to find it and mind you, I’m not talking about searching it from the outside but instead, search inwards.

I was once asked what I thought of a marriage and I answered that it’s hard work. The answer blew the person who asked away because he could not figure out my answer.

DO YOU THINK SO TOO????????? Please do share your thoughts. :)


Want to know why that’s my answer? Well, to make a marriage work takes two to tango and it’s not like you dance around all day. Both got to put in effort, make sacrifices and a lot of compromises.

A marriage is TWO people from TWO different worlds with TWO different sets of values, coming on a common ground to find a bond to be together as ONE. Now... take a moment and think about it… don’t you think that there is a lot to do?

Just imagine, that the Sun and the Moon has to merge together to be as one. Tough eh ??????

Well each and everyone CAN make the marriage work if you really want it to. There are many things you can do to keep it alive even after many years in the marriage. The only thing that matters is whether you are up for it.

I know nowadays many would call it quits after having an argument, and it seem so easy for them to just walk out. Take a pause and glance at yourselves before you pull the plug.

Ask, have you given it your best shot? Have you done everything you possibly can? Have you understood each other well? Or have you talked it over???

Please think it over before anyone makes a hasty decision to go separate ways.

Remember the grass is never greener on the other side.

Hey if you need to share your thoughts…. Feel free to write or respond.

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